10 Tips on Building your Tribe

A love letter to my Wild Hearted Friends,  To the lady in the check out at the supermarket - thank you for telling me about your poorly son.   To the man at the kids rides, each year in autumn half term, thank you for remembering me, and letting my boy linger between rides.  To the lady I met in a network meeting, you inspire me daily,  thank you for your comments, likes and shares on my social media posts, thank you.  To the lady over the road who brings my children sweets each Friday, thank you.  To the friend I met over toddler group squeals and tears, our friendship is built on fleeting conversations, over busy boisterous children, in snippets, in milky memories, not sure if I was awake or asleep. Thank you To the friend who saw m...

How I Queen

I could no longer be the person I was... I had the most unkind and vicious mind....  to myself.  I so often woke up to bullying, gaslighting, emotional and mental abuse... and so it has been for most of my life. It would be full swing ranting away at myself by the time I fully woke up...  I would get up feeling so small, powerless and worthless... and wonder why I could not turn my life around, day after day... Call It Out First I had to become aware of the chatter, hear it.  Then I had to stop believing it.... even befriend and learn to be grateful for all that part of me had been trying to do. It must be the voices of my ...

Elevate with Gratitude

Dear Wild Heart Today I am on a mission. Do you see the donut or the hole? Are you a glass half full, or glass half empty person? I used to joke that I was a glass overflowing person….  What if there is no glass…  What if we are walking around all day with the energetic key to alchemy, allowing it to lie dormant and unused? We have a superpower, a mental ability that harmonises our hearts, minds and gut. It is free and available all the time. The more you do it the easier it gets... Gratitude is the magic energy to up level, feel joy and elevate our lives… we KNOW it,  but we have to choose it.  Stop being busy, pause and consciously declare it….maybe later when I have a moment?  Who feels like raising their vibe? I am the first...

Fizzy Toilet Bombs

Dear Wild Hearted Mama, What the FUNK?! Toilets can be a bug bear…..and I am the only woman in my house… little boys, pee... Sometimes things are just funky. I totally surrender to this reality - BUT life is far too much fun for it to cause me tension and unhappiness. Simplest Toilet Hack, chuck a toilet bomb in the loo before bed, the citric acid will have some time to fizz away at the limescale and the bicarbonate of soda at unwanted odours… In my house, the efforts are lost during the nightly pee vigils, but I think it helps in the long run. The morning holds the key to the real magic and murky rituals of self care around my porcelain throne. I enter the bathroom and chuck a Fizzy Toilet Bomb in the toilet, l...

The Edge of Knowing

Dear Wild Hearts , Today I wanted to share with you a vision of Radical Self Care , that can fill your cup to overflowing, and give you the courage and strength to be your authentic self. A simple practice of using essential oils, your olfactory nerve, and aroma. For most of my life, I...

3 Simple Practices

Dear Wild Heart Mama,  I see you.  I see you holding your baby as if your heart has moved into another body. I see your nerves extend into theirs. I see you learn to read the tension of their muscles, the flicker of their expressions and hear the symphony of human emotions in their syllables. I see your soul ablaze with love,...

Body Positivity

Dear Wild Heart, Let’s talk FAT  …. Let’s talk body positivity!  I’ve wanted to do this for so long! It means so much to me when woman claim their space.  So I’ll be claiming a fair bit going forward.I’m a very short and very round woman…. And in the last 15 years I’ve almost doubled my body weightEvery part of me wants to explain….j...

The Abyss

Dear Wild Heart,  I often wake up already thinking….busy noisy..  There in lies The Abyss.  Habitual thinking kicks in. Clanking tired thoughts that run on unconscious highways in my mind. I always… I never…. I can’t.  A dark chasm with no bottom or purpose.  Not Today (Or any other) Choose the thoughts.  Make tender new pathways in woo...

healing from childhood trauma

Dear Wild Heart,  I had ran away from home the year before to escape the toxic home situation with my step father and mother.  I had left as I couldn’t continue another minute. They did finally divorce, and we put our lives back together.  I had one strategy. I slammed the door on my childhood. I looked forward, and I was determined to be ok - I had lived through it, why go over it ever again.  And I kind of was ok...  Until I wasn’t.  20 years later my unconscious strategies begun to f...

Let the goodness in

Dear Wild Heart,  Let the goodness in! 99.9% of the time our problems are not active in the moment we are feeling crippled by them..... Thoughts on repeat ....did I offend so and so......have I paid the bill......is my child ok.....my partner Merry go round of thoughts, each firing away chemistry that brings stressful sensations.. But what if We just let the goodness in? The warmth of the sun The bliss of an evening  The children’s giggles The food on the table Let it in  Let it in  Let it in Life is beautiful

how to feel good

How do you raise your energy when you wake up low? I want to be the best version of me....  I’d think - to hell with negative self talk...and unhelpful limiting beliefs, naturally.... But seriously, how the heck do you get rid of the bastards? MY MORNING HABITS I am mindful of my thoughts, if I wake up with a low level thoughts I deliberately think different ones. I mediate   don’t manage that with the children most days... I use my s...

joy activation

Dear Wild Heart, Joy Compass Activation Dive deeply into your senses Believe them They are totally yours.... there is no wrong to right Close your eyes, forward, backwards, left, right... which direction? Feel your mouth, can you imagine what taste will bring the most joy?  Which aroma you long sniff?  What would you lie to touch? How do you want your clothes to feel? Make up? Yes? No? Spend a whole day believing yourself Present Checking in...  Find your Joy Compass and use it For this boy, he’s saving for a pick axe and digging a swimming pool...  For me, today I’m studying. My eldest, it’s a fantasy novel. My husband, going for a walk.